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Tips for Raising Resilient Kids


Do children need to be taught resiliency? Resiliency is the ability to recover quickly from difficult situations. Just like any other skill or child development milestone, resiliency needs to be taught and practiced. In their lifetime (we know you can attest) children will experience failure, heartbreak, struggle, conflict and even uncertainty. Resilient thinking gives children the skills necessary to manage fear and anxiety when experiencing difficult situations and allows them instead to feel cool, and somewhat collected, giving them the drive to bounce back and try again, instead of throwing in the towel. Check out these 5 tips on how to give children confidence and build resilience in your child.

  1. Let kids make mistakes. Children need to learn how to fail in order to learn from their mistakes. When children know that they can try again, and again, to accomplish the task at hand they won’t be as disappointed by their failures. To quote William Edward Hickson, “If at first you don’t succeed, try again.”
  2. Try to avoid being a helicopter parent. Of course, you want to keep your kid safe, but hovering and padding your child with knee pads and a helmet every time they try to go down the slide at the park does not help your child build resilience. Allow your child to take appropriate risks and, in turn, teach your kids essential risk-taking skills, build confidence and self esteem in children and watch them flourish!
  3. Help your child learn how to manage their emotions. Whether your child is experiencing stress, anger, sadness, or feelings of hurt, it’s important to teach your child that feeling and expressing their emotions is normal and a-ok! Talk to your child about how they feel and look for opportunities to “turn that frown” upside down, so-to-speak, and teach them how to overcome their obstacles.
  4. Teach them vital problem-solving skills. You’re not always going to be there to help your child when they need you (it’s the truth!). Therefore, we need to teach our kids how to troubleshoot their situation when they’re in despair. If your kid is having trouble putting on their shoe, give them a moment to try before you step in and intervene. By allowing your child to problem solve on their own you’re not only helping your child build important problem-solving skills, you’re also helping them be a more confident kid!
  5. Lead by example. Children learn most of the things they know from their parents and that can be a really good thing. If you lead by example and practice what you’re teaching your children, you set a good example and foundation for how you expect your child to act. The next time you’re stuck in traffic and you’re about to have a minor melt down in traffic, consider how you’d want your child to handle a similar situation, it might shift your reaction!

Helping your child build resilience will help them the confidence to persevere in difficult situations. This is a skill that will benefit them in childhood, adolescence, and even adulthood! To learn more about The Little Gym programs and to find a location near you visit us here.

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