So the question is, “How long does it take to build confidence?” For Isabel, the answer was 3 hours.
Hour 1: She’s getting closer to the beam. Circling around it, eyeing the stairs, watching the other kids climb right up and walk across. She backs away and decides to take a stroll down the low beam instead. She does just fine, but she doesn’t look all that impressed when she gets down. She looks at the high beam again then heads over to the parallel bars with some friends. I walk over and ask, “Isabel, would you like to do the high beam with me?” She just shakes her head no, so I offer her to come and find me when she’s ready.
Hour 2: Oh my! She’s climbed up the stairs! It took an hour, but she’s up the stairs! I start walking closer to her (you know, safety first) and she is frozen at the top of the stairs. I take her hand and say, “how about we take 3 steps together?” I get a very polite, “No thank you” before she heads back down the stairs and to the other side of the gym. She visits the stairs a few more times and each time she comes right back down.
Hour 3: She’s made it back up the stairs, but this time she doesn’t stop there. One small step, 2 small steps…HOLY SMOKES! She’s halfway down the beam! I’m not really sure what to do at this moment. I’m helping another child, but I want to call out and say, “Isabel! You’re doing it!” I want to so badly, but I’m afraid of distracting her and breaking her concentration. So I wait and watch. I make my way over just as she’s jumping down from the high beam and I will never forget the look on her face. It was joy, amazement and relief all wrapped up in one smile. VICTORY! She had done it!
I did my best to retell the experience to Isabel’s mom when she came to pick her up, but I’m not sure I did it justice. I’d like to say that it was a 3 hour long journey that ended in success, however, this wasn’t the end for Isabel…it was the beginning.
Emily Duncan, Gym Director
12/30/11